Mother/Son Dance

So yes, while on our way to Cha for Tea Ed brings up a point that he might not do the mother-son dance since it’s not traditional anyways – it’s more for the father-daughter dance. Thinking about that night, I had no clue how and where he brought it up from but he did. I just assumed (I know I shouldn’t assume) that he would do it since he’s even picked a song for him and his Mom to dance too. There was no hesitation when I asked him months ago if he’s thought about a song for him and his Mom and he said – “How about that Boyz II Men song?” Great suggestion and just seems meaningful, especially since after his father passed and his brother & sister moved out, he’s been the only one living at home with his mom so I think over the years he has paid extra attention to her. So the question goes back to – Why the heck did he changed his mind? I know that he has some time and he doesn’t have to choose now but I’m quite boggled with the idea he just brought up. This could be a couple of things:

1) Shy/embarrassed at the thought of having 200 people pay close attention to him and every move he makes. (DUH! It’s our wedding, of course they’ll be paying attention to the 2 people that are there.)

(2) He sees it as an emotional moment that he might not want to happen during our wedding. Too emotional, in fact. He’s already said that he won’t cry and not to expect him to shed any tears. He is very good at hiding his feelings until everything spills out and he’s had enough, which most of the time not a lot of people have witnessed.

(3) He’s not a dancer and he figures the one time he really has to do it will be our 1^st dance. If he can just sit and talk with his friends, then he’ll be good.

I told him that it’s his choice and if he doesn’t feel comfortable doing it, then he shouldn’t (although I’m really hoping that he does!!).I just think that this is his mom’s only opportunity to do this with him so why not take the chance and do it. So what if you just swayed around the dance floor a couple of time – it’s your day, the guests aren’t going to be judging you as if we’re on Dancing with the Stars.

So for those brides out there that’s had this similar situation happen, did you do anything in lieu of the mother/son dance? This was actually the part of our reception where I was planning on showing some clips of him as a baby with his dad but guess I’d have to think of putting that somewhere else. I still want to do something in the reception to honor his family so it doesn’t look like it’s only my family party. Your thoughts?